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Writer. Podcaster. Beer drinker. Old movie watcher. Mother. Goober.

Facebook isn’t going to like this

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Yeah, so, one of my many 2019 resolutions is to stop spending so much time on Facebook. I know. I’m such a basic bitch. That’s everyone’s New Year’s resolution.

I’ve been pondering my relationship with Facebook lately. A lot of people have. There are all the privacy concerns, obviously. It certainly hasn’t improved political discourse in this country. And, I believe that Facebook is a media organization that should be fact-checking the news stories on its platform.

I’m not going to sit here and talk a bunch of shit about Facebook. I have cool and smart friends who work there. Also, I think Facebook has done awesome things. It has brought people together, and it helps us maintain those connections. Hell, my mighty, mighty good man David and I were introduced to each other via Facebook. I love seeing what my friends are up and looking at their photos. Plus, it reminds me of important dates like birthdays, anniversaries, etc.

BUT, Facebook has also made every day feel like an awkward family Thanksgiving dinner. You used to only have to listen to your cousin’s racist political views once or twice a year, but thanks to Facebook you see it every day. I’ve lost friends on Facebook, but the truth is I was going to lose those friends whether we were on Facebook or not. Family members have unfriended me, and I’ve unfriended family members, which is probably for the best. This way we can limit our political arguments to the holidays as god intended.

Of course, that’s not why I’m limiting my Facebook time in 2019.

Facebook has made it easy – almost too easy – to share my thoughts, feelings, ideas and stories. Gone are the days when I would come up with an idea, write and live with it for a while, and published a fully formed piece. Instead, I instantly open the Facebook app on my phone, write one line of a half-baked idea and post it. And now my good idea is gone. It’s lost in Facebook’s algorithm for some of my friends to see. Which friends? Well, whichever friends Facebook decides should see it, I guess.

I need to stop just throwing my stories away on Facebook. They’re mine. I want to throw them away here on my blog! And that’s why I’m going to limit my Facebook time. I’ll still be sharing my blog posts and podcasts on Facebook. And, I will still be checking in from time to time. I want to see my friends’ posts and photos. But, instead of mindless scrolling, I’ll practice mindful scrolling.

I have a lot of the same New Year’s resolutions every year. Exercise more. Lose weight. I ditch those quickly every year because I’m lazy and bread is delicious. BUT, I also say I want to create more and consume less. Less Facebooking falls under that.

The good news is, for you my dear tens of readers, there is going to be a lot more activity on The Sonia Show in 2019, whether it’s longer stories or more quick thoughts and photos.

I know what you’re thinking. “But Sonia, what about Twitter?”

Ummm, yeah. One social media platform at a time, you guys!

Author: The Sonia Show

I'm a writer/podcaster/mother/goober in San Francisco who likes to drink beer, shop, laugh and make other people laugh, watch old movies, go to baseball games, kick breast cancer's ass, explore with my mighty, mighty good man David and my awesome autistic son, Calvin, participate in general jackass-ery, talk about TV, eavesdrop on strangers' conversations, make nerdy “Star Wars” and “Simpsons” references, and post personal things about myself on the web for all to read, which makes me some sort of literary exhibitionist.

One thought on “Facebook isn’t going to like this

  1. Every Jan 1st I go onto Facebook and I unfriend anyone who isn’t in my real life, who I haven’t head real conversation with or hasn’t added anything positive to my previous year. This can get tricky with family. … for those, I simply unfollow! Good luck on your Facebook minimization.

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