The Sonia Show

Writer. Podcaster. Beer drinker. Old movie watcher. Mother. Goober.

Separated

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Yeah, so, there’s been some big changes. Unfortunately, the change is such a bummer that I didn’t even know how to write about it. Pretty weird considering that I wrote about having breast cancer twice.

After 11 years of marriage, David and I have separated. I’m not going to get into all the details here, because it’s not only my story to tell. 

I want y’all to know that my mighty, mighty good boy Calvin and I are OK. Calvin has been very understanding. He’s such a logical kid. He has two parents who absolutely adore him. That will never change. 

I have the best support system on the planet. I have a family that has my back, and the most badass friends a girl could ask for. I have an awesome job with the coolest coworkers. I feel so loved and supported in every aspect of my life. I’m so lucky. 

So now, I’m just focusing on me and Calvin. I’m trying to turn 2021 into 202FUN. We have some adventures planned this summer. I’m staying in the house in SF, and I’ve been very focused on redecorating, which has been really helpful while I process everything. I’m not being sarcastic. It’s really helpful.

Just FYI: David moved nearby so we can easily split custody of Calvin. Our cat Kubo is living with him, and the pooches, Max and Toby, are staying with me.

It’s an emotional time. It’s been difficult to not write about it here. This blog has always been a kind of therapy for me — it helps me process things. Of course, I’m still writing about everything, but it’s in a real paper journal with a pen, because I’m old fashioned like that.

It’s crazy to think that I’ve been writing on this blog for almost 20 years. 20 years! This blog is almost old enough to drink! Cheers to that. And some of y’all have been reading the entire time. You read my TV and movie reviews. You laughed about my terrible dating life with me. You celebrated when I met David and got married. You supported me during my breast cancer fights. You offered advice when we learned Calvin is autistic. You cheered me on as I moved from a job I hated to a job I love. You listened to me find my voice on my podcasts. 

So what’s next? I’m taking some space and time to process this and work on myself. This kind of baggage can be heavy. I don’t want to carry it around. And I know if I go through it and remove some things I can make it lighter before my next trip – whatever that may be.

I’m so grateful for the love and support y’all have given me over the years. And I’m not going to lie, I could use that love and support in this new chapter.

We’re on a ferris wheel!

Author: The Sonia Show

I'm a writer/podcaster/mother/goober in San Francisco who likes to drink beer, shop, laugh and make other people laugh, watch old movies, go to baseball games, kick breast cancer's ass, explore with my mighty, mighty good man David and my awesome autistic son, Calvin, participate in general jackass-ery, and post personal things about myself on the web for all to read, which makes me some sort of literary exhibitionist.

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