The Sonia Show

Writer. Podcaster. Beer drinker. Old movie watcher. Mother. Goober.


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A decade under the influence

Yeah, so, it’s been 10 years!

My mighty, mighty good man David and I are celebrating our 10-year wedding anniversary today. So much has happened in those 10 years. We created another human. We really leaned into that whole “in sickness and in health” thing, that’s for sure.

But the one thing hasn’t changed: We still love each other. We’re a team. We’ve always got each other’s back. We rarely argue because we know that our intentions are always good.

We always support each other. He doesn’t give me crap when I buy yet another dress for our already jam-packed closet. And I totally get it when another board game arrives on our doorstep.

“Me: I need to buy this dress with a wiener dog print.”
David: “Yeah, you do!”

David: “I’m going to buy this board game about trolleys that run over people.”
Me: “Duh.”

During these super weird and scary times, I take great comfort in knowing that I have this amazing partner in my life. Not a day goes by that I don’t thank him for no reason.

“Thank you.”
“For what?”

And then the answer is usually:

a) “For loving me.”
b) “For being awesome.”
c) “For being the best … around.
d) All of the above

We celebrate each other’s successes. We console each other when things are crappy. We drink craft beer and watch old movies. We talk about how much we miss baseball and our weekend adventures to breweries. We play Animal Crossing together and go on “dates” to the museum.

But mostly, we laugh a lot. We have a happy life.

Thank you, David, for marrying me.


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The new normal

Yeah, so, how are you? Are you washing your hands? Are you staying home? Good job! Not all heroes wear capes, my friends.

It’s so strange. I feel like I’m busier than ever. Do you feel like that? I’m not commuting. I’m home all the time. I should feel like I have too much time on my hands. Instead, I feel swamped. Maybe that’s a good thing. It keeps me from overthinking and freaking out that we’re living through a global pandemic.

My work has been so great during this crazy time. The team is always finding fun projects and little things to make us feel connected. This week we launched a lunchtime radio hour. I’m hosting on Wednesdays, and the theme is songs from movies (duh).

I look so tired. No filter can fix that.

I’ve never hosted a radio hour before. Obviously, there were a few bumps, but the response was positive. And, more importantly, I had a good time. It’s all about MEEEEEEEEEE!

Speaking about MEEEEEEEEEE, I had to do an All About Me presentation at work. As readers of this blog you already know everything about me. I was pretty nervous about it. I was worried that I was oversharing, or maybe I’m boring. In the end, I decided to tell my story, and while it got pretty personal I’m glad I did it. I really, really love my job, and I want everyone to get to know me because I like getting to know them. Plus, I’m not going anywhere. Hopefully, they consider themselves warned.

So anyway, San Francisco schools are canceled until the fall. My mighty, mighty good boy Calvin has started online classes. It’s a challenge, but he’s getting the hang of it. He has speech twice a week, occupational therapy once a week, and a weekly check-in with his class.

Yes, Calvin has his own Macbook. I bought my work laptop when I left my old job. He’s so fancy.

When all of this first started I was carrying around a lot of guilt about Calvin. I was feeling like I was doing a shitty job. There’s a lot of folks out there that are being super creative about homeschooling their kids, and I tip my hat to them. They had color-coded schedules and shit like that. Some people are really dedicated and smart about it, and some are just, well, participating in something I call the Pinterest-ifcation of parenting. I try not to let that affect me. It’s important to remember that these are super weird times, and we’re all just doing the best we can. If your kid is getting way more screentime than usual, WHO CARES?! We’re dealing with a global fuckin’ pandemic. Do what you have to do to get through this.

Speaking of getting through this, we’re doing Saturday night movie nights with our good buddies Beegs and Sass. We kicked it off with “The Warriors.” We just set up a Zoom so we can see each other, and we start the movie at the same time. It’s a little wonky in that we can hear each other’s movies, and if the timing isn’t right, well, it’s not ideal. Still, it’s super fun, and we get to hang out with Beegs and Sass.

So, that’s how we’re dealing right now. Like everyone, we’re dealing with this new normal, and we’re trying to make the best of it.

And now, I’ll leave you with snuggling, warm, sleepy doggies.

 

 


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Super weird times

Yeah, so, weird times, huh?

2019: “I’m the worst year.”
2020: “Hold my beer.”

We’re all being safe here, and we’re all healthy. My mighty, mighty good man David always works from home, and my rad company issued a work from home order a few weeks before this went down. I’m super grateful for my job right now. They’ve been so amazing and supportive. They really look out for their employees. Honestly, I feel lucky.

My coworker Jian Wei made a Zoom date with Calvin to show him his model cars and introduce him to Snapchat filters.

But yeah, everything is weird. I’m worried, but I try to keep my worrying to a minimum. The last thing we need in this house is for me to start having anxiety attacks again. During the day I focus on work, and I really love what I’m working on. That helps. In the evening and on weekends, I’ve been distracting myself with baking, movies, and Animal Crossing. It’s working. Plus, I’m trapped in the house with my two favorite boys, my doggies, and cat. Could be worse.

We’ve been trying to support the local businesses that we love. You can order food for take-out, buy merch, or get gift cards. A lot of businesses are finding creative ways to stay in business. Help them out! Obviously, my list is super SF-centric, but my hope is it will give you ideas for your city.

The Good Hop – You can pop in and grab beer to go.

Ocean Ale House – One of our favorite spots in SF, Ocean Ale House is filling up growlers. They have food, too. They make David’s favorite burger in SF, and I love their market greens. And they usually have a delicious vegan soup, too.

Goat Hill Pizza – My favorite pizza in SF is still delivering, and they have their own delivery drivers.

Laughing Monk Brewery – Laughing Monk has tasty brews, and they’re always giving back to the community and donating to school fundraisers, etc. If you can, order some beer for pickup.

Faction Brewing – This Alameda brewery was turning into a regular weekend stop for us because they’re kid-friendly, have outdoor seating, and serve rad beer. They have bottles and cans for pickup.

Rosamunde – We were having dinner at Rosamunde every Friday before the pandemic. They have a wide selection of tasty sausages (including vegan options – duh). I also super love their baked beans.

Bird & Beckett – Instead of ordering a book on Amazon, I placed a copy of “Salt Water Flour Yeast” from Bird & Beckett, and I walked down the hill to pick it up.

And, of course, help all the animals! My favorites are Farm Sanctuary, Muttville, or SPCA.

Other random things we’re doing:

A weekly produce box – it’s an easy way to get fresh produce without having to go to the store. We use Farm Fresh To You, and occasionally Imperfect Produce.

Zoom happy hours with my favorite people:

I’m still recording with Margo for Dorking Out and What a Creep. We’re having a really great time. For Dorking Out, we talked about “Tombstone” and “Sleeping with the Enemy.” Over at What a Creep, we talked about Jim Jones, the Houston Astros, and creeps in romantic comedies.

I hope y’all are healthy and being safe. Wash your hands. Keep your distance. Stay home.


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Grateful Eight

Yeah, so, yesterday my mighty, mighty good boy Calvin turned 8.

I am so in awe of Calvin. He is kind, smart, funny and honest. The world would be a better place if we had more Calvins in it.

Calvin has inspired me to look for the good in people; to be kinder; to try to understand other people’s challenges.

And he encourages me to apply that understanding to myself, too. My inner voice can be cruel. “You’re dumb. You’re fat. You’re failing.” But when Calvin looks at me, he doesn’t see that, and he reminds me that I’m not those things. And then I tell my inner bitch to STFU.

Calvin has also encouraged me to be more outspoken when I see something wrong. I’ve never been a very political person, but it’s because of Calvin, and my desire to make the world a better place for him, that I’m drunk dialing my representatives and donating money to organizations and candidates that fight for what’s right. I will never run for office, but I fight for what’s right in my own way.

Calvin has made me a better person.

OK, enough mushy stuff …

So, yeah, after years of ceiling fan obsession and repeated asking, Calvin finally got his very own ceiling fan!

For years, Calvin has been watching ceiling fan videos. I bet you didn’t know that was a thing. It is. There are hundreds, maybe thousands, of videos about fans and ceiling fans.

I suspect Calvin could install his own ceiling fan, but instead, Calvin picked out the fan and we paid for it. Then my parents paid for the installation. He’s SO HAPPY.

I filmed the entire installation, so if you’re really into that sort of thing, you can watch it here.

We had a small birthday party at Michelle and Dale’s new house to celebrate. And even though the weather wasn’t as warm as we hoped, that didn’t stop Calvin from swimming.

I don’t know if anything can top last year’s Muni bus cake, but this Bart cake from My Favorite Bite is pretty damn close. Maybe next year we will get a Caltrain cake …

Other things that happened at the party …

Calvin opened up all of his gifts without our knowledge, and after we told him he could get into the pool, he didn’t wait for his swimsuit. He just got naked and jumped in, which is so Calvin.

Big, super thanks to my sister Michelle and her man Dale for hosting Calvin’s birthday! You’re the best aunt and uncle Calvin could ask for.


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The shoe is on the other foot

Yeah, so, this morning my mighty, mighty good boy Calvin asked if he could wear two different shoes.

“They’re the same, but different colors,” he said.

“Yeah, but you should wear matching shoes,” I replied.

“Why?”

“Ummm, errrr. Actually, I don’t know why you have to wear matching shoes. You don’t. Go for it!”

He ran around the house, excitedly: “Look how colorful my shoes are!”

I think Calvin is very fashion-forward. In a few weeks, all the kids at school will be wearing mismatched shoes. You’ll see.


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Oh hi, I missed you

Yeah, so, I know. I KNOW! I’ve been so busy podcasting that I’ve been ignoring my first love, this blog. I’m so sorry about that. If it makes you feel any better, I ignore Facebook, too. Does that help?

Other things I ignore: laundry, the books on my nightstand, good advice, red flags – I could go on and on.

So anyway, I’ve got a few podcasting updates …

What a Creep is really catching on, which is super exciting! My podcasting sister from another mister Margo and I just wrapped season one! We covered a lot of creeps, including Lance Armstrong, Elizabeth Holmes, Newt Gingrich, Ted Bundy, OJ Simpson, Rosanne Barr, Mel Gibson, Bill Maher, Chevy Chase and Piers Morgan.

Each episode ends with someone who is not a creep, so you won’t feel like everything is awful when you’re finished listening. We’ve got a bunch of awful creeps lined up for season two, so stay tuned.

Dorking Out is expanding its audience every month. We’ve had some really fun guests, including Dana Buckler, the host of “The Dana Buckler Show,” and Erika Bromley from F This Movie!

We’ve dorked out about “Can’t Buy Me Love,” “Sliding Doors,” “To Wong Foo, Thanks for Everything! Julie Newmar,” “Creed,” “Speed,” “Do The Right Thing” and “Twister.” Seriously, we’re having a blast! If you’re not listening, you should.

I’ve got other updates for you, too …

My mighty, mighty good boy Calvin is having the best summer ever. He did a few weeks of the extended school year, and now he’s doing a month of summer camps through the Parks & Rec department. Leslie Knope would be proud.

We took a family vacation the week of July 4! We spent a night at the Madonna Inn, which has the best pool ever. It has a massive shallow end and the deep end is only 5 feet. Calvin’s swimming gets better and better every time we go. I really think swimming is going to be his thing. Oh, and the pool has a bar. Duh.

Then we spent a few nights in a house in Cayucos with good buddies Beegs, Sass and Levi, which was supa dupa fun.

Then my mighty, mighty good man David, Calvin and I went to Pismo Beach for a few days. We visited Figueroa Mountain Brewing, Libertine Brewing and. Barrel Works

And, we went to Solvang so Calvin could see the windmills. #FanofFans

AND THEN, we went back to the Madonna Inn on the Fourth of July and stayed in a cave, so we didn’t have to hear fireworks. Calvin doesn’t like the sound of fireworks. And yes, we literally saved in a cave.

So anyway, I will update more often. I promise.


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Capitol critters

Yeah, so, my brother Eric and his girlfriend Jennifer got hitched this past weekend in Old Sac, so my mighty, mighty good man David, mighty, mighty good boy Calvin and I decided to make a weekend out of it.

Let me start by saying this: Welcome to the family, Jennifer! I hope you like randomly appearing in blog posts, because by joining our family you have waved your right to privacy. I’m sure Eric mentioned that.

So, yeah, we started the trip out right by taking Amtrak instead of driving. It’s affordable, and it takes less than 2 hours. Plus, there’s beer.

Eric and Jennifer got married on the Delta King, which is a refurbished riverboat with hotel rooms. Calvin was SO EXCITED to sleep on the boat, so when they offered as the Captain’s Quarters at a discounted rate (and the bride and groom didn’t want it), we were more than happy to take it. It’s at the front of the boat with a terrific view of the river and the bridge, which has trains riding over it practically even 15 minutes.

Calvin was in heaven.

We also went to a Rivercats game. The Rivercats are the triple-A team for the San Francisco Giants, and they just happened to be playing The Aviators, which is the triple-A team for the Oakland A’s. It’s a really fun ballpark. There was a lot of delicious food to be had and beer to be consumed. It’s so casual. The ball players were taking selfies with fans, signing balls and one of the players handed a kid a bat to keep. It was really, really fun. If there’s a triple-A team in your area, you should go.

Check out how AMAZING my niece Lucy looks. Her hair is gorgeous. It’s purple and blue, and she looks like beautiful mermaid. Oh, and Calvin looks super cute in his yellow bow tie, which strangely he was totally fine with wearing. He must’ve known that he looked gooooood.

Lucy, Eric, Lorelei and Calvin

Me and my date, vegan carrot cake cupcake

Seriously, though, the bride and groom were kind enough to order two special cupcakes: one for me (the vegan) and one for Calvin (egg allergies).

We also visited the California State Train Museum. We went there a couple of years ago, and it was fun. Calvin was even more into it now. My favorite thing that happened in the museum was Calvin talking to one of the volunteers, and the conversation went like this:

Calvin: “Where are all the people?”
Volunteer: “We’re people.”
Calvin: “Are you sure?”

 

 


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I’ve got butterflies

Yeah, so, every year my mighty, mighty good boy Calvin’s school has a fundraising event. This year it was a masquerade ball.

It’s tough to wear a mask when you were glasses. I entertained the idea of buying a mask that clips on to my glasses, but I didn’t want to ruin my precious glasses. I settled for a mask on a stick. I didn’t feel that was festive enough. So then I got it into my head that I should put something on my head. I bought this headband adorned in colorful butterflies on Etsy.

I knew that everyone would be all mardi gras, so I decided to do my own thing, which turned out to be butterflies. I have no explanation for why I choose butterflies other than I think the headband is really pretty.

Also, look at my mighty, mighty good man David … isn’t he so creepy dreamy?


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Think pink (cupcakes)

Yeah, so, my mighty, mighty good boy Calvin has been really into “Pinkalicious & Peterrific” lately. He really loves an episode in which Pinkalicious and her mother bake pink cupcakes, and she eats so many of them she turns pink.

For weeks, he has been talking about pink cupcakes.

“We will make pink cupcakes sometime, Mommy?”

“I want pink cupcakes.”

“We will make pink cupcakes later?”

This weekend, we finally made it happen. I think he’s just a little bit proud of them.

And yes, before you ask, they’re vegan. I used boxed cupcake mix with egg replacer, and you’d never know the difference.

Now I have to hide the cupcakes, because he will wake up in the middle of the night and eat them.

For our Oscar party, my friends John and Chris brought over “hostless” cupcakes, and they were awesome! We had a few leftover, and we had them sitting on the counter. The next morning, Calvin came into our room.

Him: “Guess what I did?”

David: “Umm, what?”

Him: “I ate a cupcake in the dark last night.”

Me: “Umm, what?”

Him: “I got up in the night and ate a cupcake.”

He did. He got up in the middle night and ate a cupcake. Then he went to the bathroom to wash the chocolate off his face and hands. And he would’ve gotten away with it, if he hadn’t told on himself … and we didn’t notice all the chocolate crumbs on the bathroom the next morning.